Monthly Archives: January 2018

Acts of Love

I once read a story about a writer who so detested his wife that he plotted to kill her. Since she was a devoted partner who delighted in cooking him gourmet meals, this seemed surprising. Until the author revealed late in the story that there was one thing the wife had never done. She’d never bothered to read any of her husband’s books. I don’t think I’d be tempted to off any family members who hadn’t read my work, but I will say it makes me feel so good when they do! The other day, for example, my older son called me up and said he’d just finished reading IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN YOU and he loved it! (Okay, he’s not the most unbiased reader, but I was thrilled anyhow.) Now he was 100 pages in to my first novel, WHILE I DANCED. I admit it. I was ridiculously pleased. My son’s a CEO who works mega-crazy hours and has a young family as well. I can’t even remember the last time I saw him sitting around reading a novel—let alone a young adult novel. I was touched that he was reading my work, not anything he’d ordinarily choose to read or think he had time for. Of course, I couldn’t resist teasing him. “Does this mean I have to listen in on your earnings calls?” I asked. “Not necessary,” he said. It’s funny, though, how these things do matter to us writers. A multi-published novelist in my Sisters in [...]

By |2018-01-26T15:08:31-05:00January 26th, 2018|The Writing Life|0 Comments

Living Life Vicariously

Going to become a big brother! As parents, we’re not supposed to live our lives vicariously through our adult children. We’re advised to focus on living our own lives and following our own dreams. But sometimes, I’ve decided it’s A-okay to savor life’s joys vicariously. Take this past Monday, for example. Our beautiful daughter-in-law, now in her mid-thirties, waited anxiously all day for the results of tests on the baby she’s expecting. The call finally came in the late afternoon. The baby was developing just fine. There were no signs of any problems. Furthermore, they were having a girl, a baby sister for their three year old son. When they called us that night, their excitement and happiness was palpable. And it was contagious! My husband and I couldn’t stop smiling long after we’d hung up the phone. This is such an amazing time in a young couple’s life, and I admit it. I am loving every minute of living this stage of their lives vicariously! It’s their turn to experience the miracle of creating new life and growing their young family. And truthfully, it brings back such wonderful memories.  I was 37 when I became pregnant with our younger son.  I’d had a miscarriage, and I was anxious about how this pregnancy would go. I can still remember calling my husband to tell him the news that the amniocentesis test revealed no problems with the baby’s development, and we were going to have a younger brother for [...]

By |2018-01-18T15:35:31-05:00January 18th, 2018|Family|0 Comments

There’s Never a Good Time to Write

  The young woman standing next to me in the coffee line at church was a gifted writer. She’d done a reading of her poetry several months before, and I’d been blown away by the lyricism and elegance of her work. At the reading, she’d talked about how much she was enjoying getting back to writing. Her excitement at rediscovering this passion was palpable. But that day, in response to my inquiry about her writing, a sad look crossed her face as she told me, “I haven’t written anything in months—my job, my kids, my dad’s illness—it’s all been too distracting. I haven’t been in a place where I could do anything creative.” I nodded sympathetically, thinking to myself, Been there, done that. There have been days and weeks that I’ve let my writing slip away—great wads of time when I’ve felt overwhelmed by family crises, student papers, and a “to do” list that never gets shorter. Yesterday, for example, I came close to not writing, despite having carefully penciled into my planner several hours to work on my new novel. I was feeling so anxious about my list of what I needed to do for my upcoming book signing, and everything else I wanted to get done before the official release of IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN YOU at the end of the month. And then there was my sister’s birthday and the work to review before my next Sisters in Crime meeting. Maybe I should just get all this [...]

By |2018-01-11T10:03:42-05:00January 11th, 2018|The Writing Life|0 Comments

You Never Know Until You Try

Love this cover! I’m getting so excited about the release of my second YA novel, It Should Have Been You. The official release date, January 30, is less than four weeks away! Who knew that this was the path my life would take? If you had told me in my dancing days that I would ever write a novel, I would have thought you were delirious. Sure, I moonlighted as a freelancer, but all those magazine and newspaper features were nonfiction. And yes, I gobbled up young adult novels, but that was just for pleasure. I can even recall running into a writing friend in the public library years ago. When she saw all the YA books I was picking out, she said to me, “Maybe that’s what you should be writing.” “Oh, I could never do that,” I told her. “I don’t have the fiction gene.” I’m still not sure what possessed me to try writing a novel when my dancing days were over. Maybe there was a huge hole in my creative life. Or maybe I just needed a new dream. And in all honesty, I still have plenty of moments when I wonder if I have “the fiction gene,” even though I’ve now written three novels and am working on another. In grad school, I suffered from a serious case of “imposter syndrome.” All the other novelists had been telling and writing stories since their pre-school days. Me? I’d been dancing in my living room [...]

By |2018-01-04T18:11:03-05:00January 4th, 2018|The Writing Life, Uncategorized|0 Comments